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Inmy wife Toni and I celebrated 30 years of marriage. I love this picture of us leaving our wedding reception, because in many ways it show us stepping out into the world when we honestly had NO IDEA what life would bring us. We just had hopes and dreams. I have no data on this, but I think leaders perhaps struggle in their marriages more than others do.
Global crises make that even more complicated as all the stress at work comes home. And Toni and I have had our share of struggles for sure. Both of us have felt more pain than we ever knew was possible, and more deep joy than we ever realized existed. Through it all, Christ has kept us together and brought us a more wonderfully fulfilling relationship than either of us knew was possible.
Some are observations. Some are directives. To stick through the tough times. There have been a few seasons in our 25 years where we stayed together simply because we were being obedient.
So you stay when you feel like leaving. You stay when you feel like doing something irresponsible. You just obey what you believe God has called you to do in the situation. I believe God has called me to stay married to one woman for life, and Toni believes God has called her to stay married to one man for life. And in the process of being obedient, we both discovered something incredible: your emotions eventually catch up to your obedience.
Though the joy may have left for a few days, a few weeks, and once or twice, for a season, it came back. Deeper, richer and more abundant than we ever expected. Sometimes we defied stereotypical Christian advice and went to bed angry. But at least we went to bed together. And reason usually returned with the dawn. That can be healthy. It can also be horrible. I promise you we have. I heard this from Tim Keller a few years ago do not have a source…sorry. With the disappearance of God from more and more of our culture, people have lost a sense of the divine and the majestic.
Consequently, our desire to worship—no longer directed toward God—gets directed at our spouses and children. It places pressure on them they were not deed to bear, and many marriages and families collapse from the pressure. There is something fundamentally flawed with this, and the sooner you 21 year old looking for my future wife that pressure off your spouse, off your kids and off yourself, the healthier you become. Toni and I first started seeing a counsellor when we were in our mid thirties. I should have gone when I was in my twenties. I resisted going to counselling. After all, I had little conflict as a single guy, so who had to be bringing all this tension in my marriage?
And I usually am. In the kitchen, I take an ingredient out, and then I put it back. And wipe the counter. I assumed my way was the right way. Now we can laugh at it most days. Big things would include your faith, your approach to parenting, your philosophy of life, your priorities, your finances and more. Had I even suggested in any way that I was the spiritual head of a home, I would have been laughed out of the school. Or maybe arrested. In no way, though, is that authoritarian or even remotely about power. Most men resist taking spiritual leadership at home. Most male leaders resist taking authentic, Christ-motivated loving leadership at home.
Not fun, but probably healthy.
Parents have stopped living for Christ and for each other and started basing all their decisions around their. And they know it. As Tim Elmore has suggestedthis approach produces kids with high arrogance and low self-esteem. It renewed and remade us. We made ificant progress on our relationships so many times we did that. Plus…so much of it was fun. We also took family vacations every year. We did what we could afford. But our kids now 23 and 19 tell us it was one of their favourite things growing up and something that really bonded our family.
I wrote more about why and how we took those vacations in this Parent Cue post. So we started new hobbies we could enjoy together snowshoeing, hiking, cycling and really worked on our friendship. For the record, I believe marriage is the context God deed for sex.
The irony of course is that too many married couples lose interest in sex. When was the last time you saw a married couple on TV or in a movie in a love scene? Not that any of us should be watching steamy scenes, but you get the point. Why, in our culture, is it not weird when a couple at a bar in a movie hooks up or a wife whose husband is out of town gets it on with her boss, but it is weird when two people who have committed to each other for life have sex?
The more emotionally, relationally and spiritually close you get to your spouse, the better it gets. Toni and I have experienced all of these things and learned how to come out with a better marriage on the other side.
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