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Dear Dr. I take care of her and my Dad both She gets upset if I tell her I think she just thought she was seeing something and says I think she is crazy.
Any suggestions? Thanks so much for sending in this question. This is actually a very common complaint that I hear from family caregivers, so happy to share some thoughts about what might be going on, and what you can do. In other cases, this kind of complaint ends up being one of the very earliest s of clinical dementia.
Lewy-Body dementia in particular is associated with visual hallucinations.
Evaluate her underlying cognitive condition. In other words, get her evaluated for possible underlying dementia. There are also a of things you can do to help her thinking be the best it can be, such as avoiding certain medicationsminimizing stress, and promptly recognizing delirium. Last but not least, if she is diagnosed with dementia, your family should address advance care planningand prepare for further cognitive decline. This is sad to think about, but important! Reason why, rather than reasoning with. Instead of trying to convince her that nothing is there, see if you can figure out what might be triggering her perception that an animal is in the house.
Would better lighting in the house at night help? Prioritize reassurance, validation, and emotional connection over rational explanations. No matter what their age or mental condition, people respond to feeling heard and loved. So, try focusing on acknowledging her concern and helping her feel better. Interestingly, recent research confirmed that even people with poor memories maintain a lasting impression of an emotional experience. So keep fostering those positive emotions however you can.
Consider getting ideas from others caring for elderly relatives. Other family caregivers are often an excellent source of advice for trouble-shooting common problems such as anxiety, or even delusions. I would recommend doing this while her cognitive evaluation is pending, as you and she need practical behavior solutions sooner rather than later. Most concerns families have about an aging parent do track back to underlying medical problems that should be identified and addressed.
See this post for ideas on how to find a geriatrics consultation. For managing day-to-day challenges, you can get excellent practical advice from geriatric care managersbut this usually requires paying out of pocket. I hope some of this advice helps. If nothing else, finding out that other people are dealing with similar problems is often a big relief to people.
What did you find helped? Please share your story below! Another possibility: Charles Bonnet syndrome. However, she realized that the things she saw were not real. Nothing she saw was in the Mother of older male female for talk lunch maybe frightening. Yes, very good point. People can have visual hallucinations in the absence of dementia or mental illness, especially if they have chronic vision problems, and this is called Charles Bonnet Syndrome.
Further investigation and compassionate reassurance are always a good first step! Hi Leslie are you a specialist on old folks? Mine has never nurtured, only do basic duties but not show care inside. The article on my site explain the possible medical underpinnings of many behavior or health changes that concern adult children.
For moral support and practical suggestions, I also recommend an online caregiver support group. The one at AgingCare. Good luck! Otherwise, the answer to your question is that often, one ends up upsetting or disappointing a parent under the circumstances you describe. If she has dementia, try to not argue or reason with her or expect her to understand your reasons. I do recommend ing an online support group, such as the one at AgingCare.
Lots of people have been through something similar, they will give you ideas on what to say and lots of support with how difficult this is. The book Coping with your difficult older parent is also very good. Good luck and take care! She has diarrhea. In medical emergencies, call or go to the Emergency Room. For serious but not emergent issues, primary care providers or urgent care centers have doctors that can to a proper evaluation and give advice. My parents constantly scream…. Sorry to hear this, it sounds very stressful.
Hi Leslie. I am a 11 year old. My fathers girlfriend is Ahe always gets scared and shouts and yells when I spook her. I keep trying to make noise such as shuffuling my feet or clearing my throat but nothing works. She has good hearing but I dont know what to do! Any advice? Hi Kalista. This would be a good thing to talk about with your father.
I live with my 98 year old mom who is in good health. Several years ago I diagnosed her with Charles Bonnett syndrome. I thought about it and when it started and realized that we had changed Pharmacys at the time it began and that meant we were getting a different brand of generic drugs.
I switched her back to the first pharmacy and their brand of the drug she was taking, and Voila! The visual hallucinations went away and never came back. So personally? I think what causes it is a filler or chemical that was used in the generic drug. Just a thought for everyone out there taking care of their elderly parents like me!
Thanks for sharing this story! Great thought to check and see if any recently changed medications might be an issue. My elderly mother has done this a few times. I found that rather than trying to convince her that her perceptions were incorrect I would try to help her.
Let me see if I can help with this. Where did you see it go? And I agree, it does look like a person out there. Would you like me to move it? Problem solved. It always made my son giggle and feel good that Mom had swept the monsters away. Same thing with my mom. They perceive what they perceive and I found just taking care of their perceived problem usually did more good than anything else.
My grandfather constantly tells me that someone is breaking into his apartment and stealing his things. At first, I did truly think that someone was taking his items, and we moved him from an active adult community to an independent living facility.
At first, he thought that was the best thing for him, but in the past 2 months, the complaints about someone breaking in are resurfacing. But when I try to confront him over these things, he gets aggregated and mean.
He personally attacks me and says that I have never done anything for him or says how no one wants him. I am really not sure what else to do. So it sounds worrisome for dementia. Regarding responding to him, I would focus on validating his emotions and try not avoid confronting or reasoning with him.
It just never convinces an older person and le to stress for them and you. I would also strongly encourage you to find support and information on coping with dementia behaviors. The online caregiver forum mentioned above is another good place to find support. My mom is 75 and has not been been told she has dementia or alzheimar. Sorry to hear this, it sounds very difficult. Take a look or listenand then try to get help from others. Many people find it helpful to connect with other adult children in online forums, or in support groups. You can also try to see if any geriatric care managers in your area are giving free lectures, because many give talks on this topic.
It was addressed many years ago. However, she was just caught red handed going through my daughter in laws purse and there was no discussion because it was late in the evening. I have asked my son to let his wife address the issue because it was her purse. He feels he needs to mediate. He has been one of the most important people in her life. My mother is not well physically but she is very with it with her mind.
Just not as good as she was before at snooping etc. I can only imagine how she is feeling that she got caught. What are your thoughts on how to handle the situation? Your son is an adult and if you are sure your mother has her full mental capacities then she is an independent adult too, and you will have to decide to what extent you want to mediate an issue between them.
I will also say that in the earliest stages of cognitive impairment, some people show worse judgment or worse inhibition of their bad habits. Sometimes you need to just acknowledge someone is or has become a kleptomaniac. If you know ahead of time, you can just lock certain doors and lock up or hide valuables. This comes from someone who has friends with parents who suffer from kleptomania and have intimate experience.
We all use the same tactic. Just put away valuables when the person comes to visit or visit in public or at their homes. There is no point in confronting a mental illness in most cases as a non-professional. That does sound like a practical solution, Will. My grandfather has started to exhibit similar symptoms — he sometimes thinks there is a delivery-person at the door even when there is no one there.
Thanks for the post, I will send it to her. My 90 year old mother has lived with my husband and I for a year now since moving out of an assisted living facility.Mother of older male female for talk lunch maybe
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